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Aching at the edge: When your love has no place to land

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This piece is for the silent warriors who love from afar, aching to help, yet bound by respect and honor.

There is a particular pain that only a mother knows – the pain of watching the child she once rocked to sleep walk through a storm…

Sometimes, the love we carry isn’t ours to place. Sometimes, the kindest, most respectful thing we can do is to step back – not because we want to, but because the person we love needs space more than support…and that too, is love. The hardest kind – the kind that whispers, “I’m here if you need me…but I will not push past your will.

It’s a quiet ache – watching someone you would walk through fire for…walk through it alone. Knowing that to respect their boundaries means denying every maternal instinct to hold, help, or even hover nearby. So you retreat – heart full of hope, prayers constant, love unconditional….just, nowhere to land.

That’s where the grief lays quiet – not in anger, not in blame, just within suspended ache of love with no landing place. If you’ve ever stood at the edge, heart aching in silence, know you are not alone.

You carry it in your chest like an unsung melody, a comfort unoffered, a presence unwelcomed – not because you are not welcome, but because the one you love chose to walk their road alone. Maybe, in their heart of hearts, they believe that this somehow protects you – from worry, from sorrow, from the weight of what they can barely carry themselves. However, what they may never fully realize is this: the love of a mother is never a burden, it’s the very shelter they’re trying to build, by shutting everyone out.

It isn’t about control. It isn’t about fixing. It isn’t even about needing recognition. It’s about raw, fierce, pure love that doesn’t know where to go when the doors stay shut.

You see the signs. You feel the shift. You know from instinct that something is wrong, but your hands are tied – tied by their boundaries, by their silence, by the dignity of a choice that isn’t yours to make. So you grieve…not only for what might be unfolding behind the veil, but for the aching truth: when love has no place to go, it becomes one of the cruelest kinds of helplessness.

So, you remind yourself: “This is their journey.” “This is not about me.” …and that’s true…mostly.

Some days, the ache presses harder because there is no off-switch for a mother’s love. No dimmer dial on the light you’ve carried for them since their first breath.

You don’t need to be in control. You just need to be close…to sit quietly beside their pain, to hold their hand – if only for a moment – and show them they don’t have to go through this alone. Instead, you sit in the shadows. Aching at the edge. Loving in silence. Honoring their choice and respecting their heart, even though yours is renting in two.

You channel that love…that grief…into prayer, into trust, into faith that your love still carries across the distance and reaches through closed doors to heal in the only way a mother’s love can…without needing to be seen…only to be felt.

So in the quiet, you hold fast to the only thing your soul knows to be true: that a mothers love knows no distance, no limits, no end. It asks for no permission, needs no spotlight – only presence, only faith, only healing.

No matter what. No matter when. No matter how… you will always be connected, you will always love unconditionally, and you will always be there…even if only in spirit. Because that’s what a mother’s love does – it stays, it reaches, it remains…even in silence. It doesn’t fade with distance. It doesn’t weaken when doors are closed. It simply finds another way.

When your presence isn’t invited, your prayers can still flood the room. When your voice can’t be heard, your love can still whisper through the quiet. When your arms can’t reach, your spirit can still hold them from afar. You may not get to walk beside them, but you can walk behind them – covering them in strength, shielding them in prayer, surrounding them with hope.

When you’re aching at the edge, remember this: A mother’s love is not powerless when it’s unseen. It’s never wasted, never small. It becomes the shelter, the covering, the unspoken miracle that holds steady in the unseen places – where healing begins, and love lives. Love doesn’t always mean action – sometimes it’s allowing your faith to reach where your hands cannot. It’s continuing to love fiercely, even when you’re asked to love quietly. That is not weakness, or helplessness…that is strength.

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."  - Psalm 34:18

"Before they call I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear." - Isaiah 65:24


There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings.– Hodding Carter

May your love find its way, even when it has no place to land.

With faith,

Tina Campbell | Scribed In Light



5 responses to “Aching at the edge: When your love has no place to land”

  1. Herald Staff Avatar

    What a beautiful explanation and expression of love. The older I get, the more I’ve come to realize that, although I’m a parent, I still don’t fully understand how a mother feels. I’ve seen it in my own home. While I’m often able—whether I like it or not—to respect the boundaries that come with my children growing up, I’ve witnessed the unspoken emotional devastation in my wife when, for example, one of our boys seems to be navigating part of life in a less-than-ideal way. I see it in my niece, too—mother to an autistic son—who spends each day pushing life’s boulder uphill.

    My mother passed away four years ago today. I always knew how fortunate I was to have a mom like her, but since she’s been gone, I’ve felt the enormous hole in my life—one that will never be filled.

    Never think we sons don’t appreciate our mothers as #1, Tina. We do. We just tend to take the long, winding road toward truly understanding how much you mean to us.

    I hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend and your weekend is even better!
    –Scott

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    1. Scribed In Light Avatar

      Thank You Scott. Your message is filled with kindness and understanding. You are right…the road is never easy for a parent. While it is fulfilling, and my children (and grandlittles) absolutely define me…it still takes a toll on your emotions. My children have walked, even climbed some extremely steep hills with grace and honor. I am proud of them each. however, I don’t know what to do with my emotions when any of them are carrying a weight so great and try to spare me their pain and suffering. I try to think about Mother Mary kneeling at the cross. I’m not sure why this helps me as a mother perhaps it’s because I love and respect my children enough to get out of the way regarding their life purpose and their journey of experience. Yet, when it’s health related…and serious…My momsheart is just kicked in the guts. I’m breathing through it, but I’m not going to lie. This has taken it’s toll and I’m just at a loss…
      I am doing a lot of prayer and positive hope and faith work, as it’s the only action allowable at this time.
      I am sorry to hear about your Mom Scott. Tragic is the word that comes to mind my friend. Mom passed a couple years back and feels like yesterday. I still find myself starting to call her…
      Hugs to you and yours Scott:)
      Tina

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  2. Herald Staff Avatar

    Tina, thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry you’re going through something so heavy, especially when it’s health-related. I wish there were words that could truly help, but as I’ve said before, I know I can’t fully understand what a mother feels when her kids are hurting, especially when they’re trying to protect you from their pain.

    Your thoughts about Mother Mary at the cross really hit me—it makes so much sense why that would bring you some comfort and strength. It’s clear how deeply you love and respect your children!

    And thank you for what you said about my mom. You’re right—it does feel like yesterday sometimes. I still catch myself wanting to call her, too.

    I’ll definitely keep you and your family in my prayers. Wishing you all happy outcomes, comfort, and healing!
    –Scott

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